The Matrix might be evolutionary

David Sloan Wilson did this Matrix in his evolutionary science lab. It's cool to see others play with it.

We discussed it in the context of working in schools, churches and diet groups.

In the lower right you see "purpose of group".

Kevin

Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
www.drkevinpolk.com

Perspective Taking - Behavioral Analysis

Hi Folks,

I presented at EvoS at SUNY Binghamton yesterday. The podcast and presentation will be posted on the web, but I don't know when. I will let you know.

I've been noticing myself often calling the vertical line of the Matrix the "Perspective Taking" line and the horizontal line "Behavioral Analysis." It seems to me that many psychotherapies accidentally get at  those two processes, but there is a lot of content talk getting in the way. The Matrix routine, at least in my opinion. Gets right at those processes.

Some other things I've been repeating a lot...

1. Toward and Away are simply behaviors. They are not right or wrong, we are looking for workability for valued living. Both toward and away are in the mix.
2. The accuracy of the sort is not important, it's the experience of sorting that's important. The more important 'correct' sorting is to a person, the harder time they have with experiencing the sorting instead of focusing on the accuracy of the sort.
3. The reward for the sorting needs to be fast. As soon as you see someone get into the experience, get excited.
4. Practice saying "Yes....And" a lot, to almost everything.
5. I'm getting the feeling that the Systems Redesign language of Lean Management (Americanized Toyota Management) is really important. Basically, intensely notice the values first, then notice the process (away and toward), and then focus on the people. Most 'bad' behaviors are due to unclear values and wasteful processes. Most people do fine once the values are clear and the processes are efficient. I'll keep working on that stuff.
6. Group is more 'powerful' than individual work due to our social nature.

I have a discussion with the SUNY Evolution students today. I think I will start with the Psychological Flexibility Warm-Up.

Sincerely,

Kevin
www.drkevinpolk.com

I've been told that The Visual Wellness Plan does a really good job of presenting the Matrix. It's available here. Visual Wellness Plan

My Interest in Horse Whisperers

Hi Folks,

You may have noticed that I recently posted about a webinar with "Horse Whisperers" in the title. I thought I would tell you of my interest...

I was recommended the documentary "Buck" and I snatched it up and watched it. Buck Brannaman was the consultant for the Robert Redford film, "The Horse Whisperer." "Buck" the documentary is excellent and worth watching.

First, horse whisperers claim no magic or that they "whisper" anything. They describe it as a learned skill and teach others. They are part of the Natural Horsemanship movement that strives to treat horses with kindness and respect. They direct the horse's natural tendencies as a herd animal. Their results are remarkable, but they are in the minority in the horse world. The really good "hands" as they are called have learned to exquisitely notice horses, and especially horses that they are working with or riding. When working with troubled horses they respond to a change for the better instantly. They respond to Toward movements instantly as well. I'm sure what they have done is watch horses so much they can predict what the horse is going to do, and then influence the behavior toward workability.

What I noticed is that some of the colleagues I work with have this exquisite ability to notice people on both the verbal and nonverbal level. When people move Away they deftly change the nature of the Away move and ultimately defuse. They instantly notice and reward moves Toward values.

Of course people are choosing what values they want to move toward, while the horses are being somewhat directed by the horse person. Still, these natural horse folks talk and write of a unity with horses that is transcendental. It's mindfulness to the max.

Be well,

Kevin

The Visual Wellness Plan using ACT - the Matrix

Hi folks,

I've turned ACT - the Matrix into a Visual Wellness Plan (VWP) and written a step-by-step manual. I kept it short (27 pages) so it's easy to download and print. The Visual Wellness Plan goes a bit beyond the usual treatment planning of the Matrix and expands it into noticing Toward and Away behaviors for wellness. It's aimed at Primary Care and other health settings, and it's very nice for collaborating with people struggling with weight, diabetes, chronic pain and such. The plan includes many pictures of the electronic whiteboards that I use in this blog that look like this:

Therefore, the manual is much like my presentations. The VWP is generally written from the point of view of someone collaborating with another person to create a wellness plan. However, it can easily be adapted for self help.

The basic sequence of

1. Who's important to you?
2. What are the internal barriers to moving toward who's important to you?
3. What behaviors do you use to get rid of or manage the internal barriers? and
4. What behaviors could you do to move toward who's important to you?

form the foundation for the Visual Wellness Plan. The VWP manual shows how I expand on each of those themes to help people create their VWPs.

I will be doing a Webinar on the VWP on February 1, 2012 at 5pm EST USA. During the webinar I will talk through the manual.

Be well,

Kevin

P.S. The manual is an ebook and available for $9.99, just Click Here.

SAMSHA definition of Recovery

The folks at Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMSHA) have come up with their definition of recovery.

Recovery: A process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness, live a self-directed life, and strive to reach their full potential.

Nice and very "ACT" consistent.

Kevin

Reminder: The ACT - the Matrix with Chronic Pain series will start on January 12th (four sessions over four weeks). Email me for more information.

Lean Management and ACT - the Matrix

Ad: I'm doing an ACT for Chronic Pain webinar (4 sessions) in January 2012. Email me at polkkev@gmail.com for more details.

Background: I started off to be an Industrial Organizational Psychologist and ended up a Clinical Psychologist who thinks a lot about how mental health delivery services are organized. In recent years I've learned a lot about Lean Management that's based on the Toyota model. It turns out that ACT and Lean are similar.

The Diagram: Recall that ACT emphasizes getting out of your head and into your life. Lean talks about this in terms of getting out of the world of Imaginary problems and solutions and into the world of direct observations and solutions.

We've all done this in meetings...We sit around and someone says, "But what if this happens?" Then we all talk for an hour about how to fix that imaginary problem. Once that's done, then someone says, "But what if this happens?" Then we talk for an hour about how to fix that imaginary problem. Once that's done, then...

Fixing imaginary problems is a horrible management trap and Lean emphasizes getting out of that trap and into direct observation. In a factory that means getting down on the shop floor and watching. In a hospital that means watching a patient, a health care worker, or both. Direct Observation rules.

In the world of Direct Observations you 'see' two types of behaviors:

1. Value Added
2. Waste 

Of course there is a place for Imagination, and that comes in terms of Vision and dreaming up ways to move toward that Vision called Target Conditions. However, too much talk becomes and Obstacle. You see those at the bottom of the diagram in the "mental experiencing" section of the Matrix.

After a bit of talking about Vision and the Target Condition, the Obstacle of talking too much arrives and it's time for Plan, Do, Study, Act (PDSA) cycles. Notice that the Target Condition is to the right of PDSAs. The PDSAs are designed to move toward the Target Condition. This is the world of direct observation. The Plan is concrete behaviors. People Do the concrete behaviors. Direct Observation of the results of the behaviors are Studied in terms of waste and value added. Then people take new Action based on the results. Multiple PDSAs are done until the Target Condition is reached.

Once the Target Condition is reached, then it's time to line things up with the Vision again.

I think of this as organized evolutionary process.

The Lean way is lots of fun once you get it implemented.

Reference: Toyota Kata by Mike Rother

Difficult Toward Moves

Someone sent me a question asking about difficult toward moves.

This is something that comes up often, the notion that toward moves are easy. The reality is that they are often very difficult.

Recall that when you do the Matrix by quadrants the upper right quadrant are behaviors you can do to move Toward others while having the unwanted feelings from the lower left quadrant.

If you have ever asked someone out on a date you might have noticed this process. You were afraid of rejection, but you had that fear and went ahead and asked for a date to move Toward a relationship.

Of course you may have decided to avoid the fear (upper left quadrant) and not ask.

Some toward moves are very, very hard. Soldiers, police officers, fire fighters and others take fear along with them as they go about their duties. These can be very difficult toward moves.

All of us end up having to confront someone about something, and often the fear of the loss of the relationship is very hard to have while doing the confronting.

The trick is to know what you value and then commit to making the move toward the value. So if relationships are important to you (you value them), it might just be worth it to take some fear, pain or other unwanted stuff along with you as you move toward the relationship.

The other trick is to notice what unwanted stuff you move away from the most, and how you go about doing the away moves.

There is no magic answer to when to do a Toward move and when to do an Away move. They are both parts of life. The Matrix diagram is about mindfully Noticing as you do toward and away moves and then noticing if the pattern of Away and Toward moves is ultimately moving you toward a valued life.

Be Well,

Kevin


Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.

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Balancing and Noticing the Difference II

Recall moving Toward someone who was important to you like a friend or family member.

Recall moving Away from an unwanted mental experience like fear, anger or sadness.

Notice the difference between how it feels to recall Toward and how it feels to recall Away behaviors.


Balancing: The goal is a balanced, valued life. While it's natural to think that 'Toward' is 'better' and that more life needs to be lived over there, from a Matrix point of view that would be out of balance. Better to hang around the center, staying loose and light on your feet, always ready to choose the next Away or Toward move.

Be well,

Kevin

Noticing the Difference I

Take up a pen or other writing instrument. Experience it through your five senses. See the pen, hear the pen (click, click), touch the pen, smell the pen, and... well, don't taste it for health reasons.

Now put the pen aside out of your five senses and imagine your recent experience of the pen. See it, hear it, touch it, smell it (and now you can taste it all you want) in your mind.

Notice the difference between the sensory experiencing of the pen and the mental experiencing of the pen.

That's the first noticing the difference exercise of the Matrix Routine. If you play with the the Matrix Routine a bit, you will discover this is a very useful difference to notice.

Be well,

Kevin


Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.

Psychological Flexibility Training: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004M8S4Z4

Free Matrix Call Recording from 11.29.11

Hi Folks,

The recording of the free Matrix call completed on 11.29.11 is available at +1 559 546 1390 Enter Access Code: 496959#. 

Or you can message me and I will send you a link to the mp3.

Kevin

Free Conference Call 11.29.11 at 5pm EST

Hi Folks,

Just a quick reminder that I'm hosting a free conference call today. 

I will be introducing people to the using the Matrix Diagram and Routine to learn and apply ACT (either therapy or training).

The Matrix Routine is a quick way to go from talking about doing different behaviors to doing different behaviors.

In these calls I go over how to set up the Matrix and get started practicing the routine.

Just call one of the numbers below and enter the access code.

Be Well,

Kevin

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Riding the Bicycle of Psychological Flexibility Training

The "target" at the center of both the Matrix and ACT is psychological flexibility. That's why I often call what I do, "Psychological Flexibility Training." It could also be called "Teaching Psychological Flexibility," but that does not seem as catchy.

While telling people how to be psychological flexible might work, it's probably a lot better to demonstrate psychological flexibility. It's much like the difference between telling someone how to ride a bicycle and showing them by riding a bicycle.

When you use the Matrix diagram you are riding the bicycle of psychological flexibility.

Think of any word and fill in this blank ______________.

Now take that word and sort it into the Matrix above.

Is it more of a sensory word, or more of a mental word?
Is it more of a Toward word, or more of an Away word?

Said another way, how would you sort that word into the Matrix diagram?

The word I thought of was "procrastination." (If you've been to one of my presentations, you will know that 'procrastination' is my favorite word.)

So where does 'procrastination' sort?

Is it more Sensory of Mental? Hmm. In the present moment my experience of that word feels like it's in upper part of the Mental realm, maybe on the 'x' of Psychological Flexibility in the diagram above.

For the horizontal sort my current experience of 'procrastination' is on the Toward side, maybe right about on the 'y' of Psychological Flexibility in the diagram above.

Where would you sort your current experience of the word 'procrastination'?

When you notice someone use the word 'procrastination' in the future, you might pause and notice where it sorts.

Be Well,

Kevin
Psychological Flexibility Training: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004M8S4Z4

Let's Build a Matrix 5

Now we have had conversations about each of the quadrants.

1. Who's important to us,
2. What shows up inside of us and gets in the way,
3. What behaviors do we do to move away from what we don't want inside of us,
and
4. What behaviors can we do to move toward who's important while having that unwanted stuff?

We are now ready to notice moving toward and away. Some people might wonder, who does the noticing? Of course that's 'me." As the song says, "the name I call myself." We don't dwell on the me. Simply put it's the part of us that shows up early in life and starts noticing almost every experience. It's a piece of cake for the me to notice Toward and Away.

For the most part, the rest of Matrix Work is practicing the noticing of Toward and Away behaviors.

Kevin


Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
ACT Gone Wild Training and Consulting
We train individuals and groups of all sizes.

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Let's Build a Matrix 4: Taking Unwanted Stuff Along

In Let's Build a Matrix 1 we talked about Who's Important.

In Let's Build a Matrix 2 we talked about unwanted stuff that can show up and get in the way of moving toward who's important.

In Let's Build a Matrix 3 we talked about the behaviors we do to move away from unwanted experiencing.

Now in Let's Build a Matrix 4 we talk about what we can do AND take the unwanted experiencing along for the ride. We label the right side of the horizontal line "Toward."

In this example someone has sais, "I could talk to my family about an issue, taking fear along."

Another said, "I could go to a movie with friends even though I'm feeling tired and want to go to bed."

Next time we will started training the Toward and Away discrimination.

Kevin


Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
ACT Gone Wild Training and Consulting
We train individuals and groups of all sizes.

Book: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B004M8S4Z4
Web:  http://www.drkevinpolk.com
Blog:  http://drkevinpolk.blogspot.com/

Let's Build a Matrix 3: What we do to move away from unwanted experiencing

In Let's Build a Matrix 1 we talked about the people who are important to us.

In Let's Build a Matrix 2 we talked about the stuff that shows up inside of us that might get in the way of moving toward who's important to us.

Now we collaborate around the stuff that we do to move Away from unwanted experiences going on inside of us.

I usually start with moving Away from Fear as an example, and about the same time write "Away" just above the left side of the horizontal line.

Then we have a conversation about the behaviors we do to move away from unwanted stuff like fear, anger, sadness and such.

I usually connect the unwanted stuff and the behavior with an arched line like you see in the drawing. This is the beginning of a discussion about the "unworkable change agenda" we will have later if we have enough time.

Any behavior can be used to move away, so you see 'meditation' showing up as an away move. A popular 'away' move not on the board is drinking alcohol, but it usually makes it up there in the presentations I do.

In Let's Build a Matrix 4 we draw attention back to the Toward side of the diagram.

Kevin

Kevin L. Polk, Ph.D.
ACT Gone Wild Training and Consulting
We train individuals and groups of all sizes.


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Free Call and Low Cost Training

Hi Folks,

Reminder that the Free Matrix Conference call is Tuesdays at 5pm EST USA.

There's a low cost, four week training coming up in November. Email me if you're interested.

The next "Let's Build a Matrix" post will be out soon.

Kevin
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Let's Build a Matrix 2: Unwanted Mental Experiencing

After having a conversation about who's important, we next draw the groups attention to the stuff that can show up inside of us and sometimes get in the way of moving toward who's important. As in the example above, I usually say "Fear" and put it on the board. I might also throw in another one like "Doubt." It depends on the audience. Sometimes I prime the group toward including thoughts like "I can't" into the mix.

If you were watching me working with this audience you would several times hear me say something like...

"So the image of moving toward your friends shows up, and then fear sometimes shows up and gets in the way."

or

"So sometimes stuff like doubt shows up and gets in the way of moving toward your family."

Almost invariably during this "what shows up and sometimes gets in the way conversation" you would hear me say something like...

"Isn't it amazing how this stuff shows up on the inside of us and sometimes ends up getting in the way of us doing something physical? The physical action is simple, like walking or talking, but this stuff can show up on the inside and it seems to grab us. I know it happens to me all to often."

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Technical: 

First we started the values (who's important) collaboration in Let's Build a Matrix 1, and now we have moved the conversation over to talking about what sometimes shows up inside of us and gets in the way of moving toward who's important. 

We are all familiar with this stuff that shows up and 'grabs' us and sometimes leads us away from doing toward who's important.

Notice that I am including myself in this mix, this Matrix. I too have people that are important to me and I have stuff that shows up on the inside and at times gets in the way of moving toward who's important.

This is genuinely showing the ACT stance; we are all in the same boat pulling on different oars.

"Showing Up"

In this example you are also seeing me us the ACT-consistent language of "showing up" rather than causal language. For example, I could instead say, "You thought about going out with your friends and that caused you to have fear." This is mechanistic language saying that thinking of friends invariably leads to fear: Friends -> Fear. This is not a link that we want to be training.

By using language like, "Showing up" we are moving toward contextual languaging. [Yes, currently there is no such word as languaging. However, for contextual conversations in English, adding 'ing' to words can help with the contextualizing.] Here's how contextual languaging might sound...

Me: "So you noticed thinking about your friends, and then you noticed fear showing up. When you think about your friends, do you notice other inside stuff showing up?

Audience member: "Yes, 'like' shows up. I like my friends."

Me: "Cool. You noticed the thought of going out with your friends and both like and fear showed up. 'Like' might go over hear."

I then put (like) next to friends on the board. (see below)

Now we have fear showing up on the away side of the matrix and like showing up on the toward side. We have moved toward contextual languaging and we're showing it on a diagram.

"Sometimes"

You also might have noticed I use words like "sometimes" a lot. That's also contextual language. It's easy for us all to slip into mechanistic speech like, "This shows up and then that [always] happens." The 'always' is in brackets because it's inferred. We don't say it out loud, but it's there. The more accurate is, " ________ shows up and sometimes _________ shows up along with it.

In brief, life is most often about probabilities (sometimes) and seldom about invariability, so we reflect that in our languaging.

"Noticing"

You might also have noticed that I use the words, "So you were noticing __________ showing up." That's noticing language, the "automatic mindfulness" of the Matrix. Using the words notice, noticing and noticed helps us all 'step back' and look at things from a bigger 'Toward and Away' picture.

In Let's Build a Matrix 3 we will continue the conversation focusing the behaviors that we all do in the service of moving Away from unwanted internal stuff like fear, doubt and 'I can't."

Make sure to email me if you're interested in the low cost training.

Be Well,

Kevin

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Let's Build a Matrix 1: Who is Important?

Here's how I start a Matrix:

Standing in front of a whiteboard, chalkboard, etc., I say something like, "I like to start by knowing who's important to folks. People like family, friends, and such. Who is important to you?"

I quickly draw the vertical and horizontal lines of the Matrix and start writing the responses in the lower, right quadrant. Whatever is said, I write it. So if someone says, "Me, that's who's important to me" I would write 'me.' If someone said, "My dog." Then I would write 'dog.'

Why write almost anything someone in a group says?

1. Because I'm getting a conversation about values started, not finished. 
2. The basic stance of doing the matrix (and ACT in general) is "Yes, and..."
3. Those familiar with improvisation know that "yes, and..." is the secret. To say "no" stops the routine. I almost never say "no," I want to keep the routine flowing.

Those familiar with ACT will see this as "values" work, and it is. Some have asked me, "Why do you start with values?" My answer is because that's where the most juice is; ultimately what motivates us is doing for others. This establishes that "target" first thing.

Next time we will move to the lower, left quadrant.

Be Well,

Kevin

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ACT - the Matrix Typical Diagram

Typical looking Matrix Diagram toward the end of a presentation.

Be well,

Kevin

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Automatic Mindfulness

Hi Folks,

I noticed that I forgot to mention "Automatic Mindfulness" during the conference call I just posted. Here is something like I would have said if I remembered:

• The Matrix and it's routines are automatic mindfulness. You don't have to mention mindfulness because it's built into the process. When I ask, "Notice the difference between how it feels to move Away and move Toward," we all take a 'step back' from our experience of the language (the sentence I just wrote) and instead look back upon our experience, and that's mindful.

At least something like that.

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I have recently read the book The Tree of Knowledge The Biological Roots of Human Understanding by Maturana and Varela and the paper Evolving the Future: Toward a Science of Intentional Change by Wilson, Hayes, Biglan, and Embr.

Way cool intellectual stuff ripe for putting into an experiential routine connected to the matrix diagram. I'll work out the routine and post on YouTube soon. At least that my current plan.

Be Well,

Kevin

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